Joe Whitaker Obituary, Death – The sad news about Joe Whitaker’s passing has caused me to feel an overwhelming sense of loss. You left an imprint on my life that, while it may have seemed insignificant to you at the time, has had a profound effect on the way we conduct ourselves for the rest of my days. This is despite the fact that our relationship wasn’t particularly close. When I was a broke college student in San Diego, the gay community there was just beginning to make itself known to us.
There was a gathering that was going on at the Zoo, and in order for a college student to attend, they would require a sizeable investment of their financial resources. You mentioned that you had an extra ticket that you would be happy to give to me when I was talking to some of the boys down in Southern California about how disappointed we were that we wouldn’t be able to go, and they said that they would be happy to give it to me. It would mean a great deal to both of us if you could hand it over to me.
The words “It’s okay that I didn’t have the money right then to pay for a ticket of that price” are audible in our heads as we replay the scene. This is something that sticks out in our minds as having been said very clearly. You counseled me to “not worry about it,” which I greatly appreciated. Have fun, and always keep in mind that you owe someone else something someday. When we first got together, I would say that I was more or less a total stranger to you.
I have spent my entire adult life keeping this thought in the back of my mind, and I have made it a point to try to live my life with the conviction that acts of thoughtfulness and generosity are never ignored. I would like to express my gratitude to you for having not only an effect on my life but also on the lives of a great number of other people. Rest in peace.